The Elusive Single Female

I've been asked this question several times now...  If we started swinging because I wanted to have a girl/girl experience, why did we start with other couples and not just a single girl.  The answer is easy... single women tend to be the flakiest people in the swinging community.  Now, before you single ladies start sending me hate mail, please understand that this has been my experience and I realize that there are always exceptions. We have had contact with a handful of single females over … [Read more...]

Confidence is a girl’s best accessory!

Believe it or not, I am a highly sexual person who is also very modest... two characteristics that really don't match up.  I wasn't a virgin when I met The Hubby, I had been with a handful of men (more like boys), but I wasn't experienced either.  I knew that I loved sex and how it made me feel, but I didn't know how to ask for what I wanted.  I wasn't comfortable with my body.  I didn't feel sexy.  In the back of my mind I could hear my mother telling me that no man wants people to think he … [Read more...]

Spice It Up: Touch

Everyone needs a little spice in their relationship.  It keeps things exciting and feeling new.  The change of pace offers you a chance to reconnect.  It's easy to do too!  You don't need to spend a lot of money or make elaborate plans (or have sex with other people). It amazes me how many couples barely touch. We have friends who never touch each other.  They never act affectionate towards each other.  They act as though they are just two people co-habitating.  Yet, they complain that their … [Read more...]

Thanks Asshole!

I have a bit of a trust issue.  Let me clarify.  I do not have trust issues with The Hubby.  We do not lie to each other or keep things from each other... EVER.  I trust him with everything I have and know that he feels that same way.  It's a trust built upon over the last 16+ years.  I have trouble putting trust in others.  I have issues with trusting friends and even some family.  I've been screwed over enough times to know better these days. I learned that even your very best friend will … [Read more...]

My VCH Piercing Experience

Several of the women that The Hubby and I have met lately have VCH (vertical clitoral hood) piercings.  I've never seriously considered a piercing before - always been too scared of the pain - but I'm intrigued by this one. Not only can it enhance your stimulation, I think it is a pretty addition to a beautiful body part.  After thinking it over these last six weeks or so and doing tons of online research, I decided to just do it and get pierced. Once at the salon, the piercer talked to me … [Read more...]

Step Away from the Alcohol

The Hubby and I are social drinkers and like to enjoy a drink or two when we are out.  OK... I like to enjoy a drink or two when I'm at home as well! :) But we both know our limit and have no problem at all in turning down another round.  I know that everyone is not this way.  We have plenty of friends who drink to excess and make fools of themselves.  Drinking to excess and swinging do not go together. This brings me to a couple that we've met a few times now... each time with the hopes of … [Read more...]

Wicked Wednesday: In the Mood

The Hubby and I had a great time with each other last night.  I'm talking AMAZING sex.  I love when we are not rushed and have all the time in the world to just enjoy each other...  when we can get lost in each other.  I love when he tells me what to do, tells me when I can come and takes control of me.  He loves when I tell him how good he makes me feel, when I beg for what I need and when I talk dirty. As cliché as it sounds, sex is more than just sex for us... it's an experience - a … [Read more...]

A Dirty Girl

Ran across this picture online and had to share.  Love it!!     … [Read more...]

There’s No Place for Pussies in Swinging

Here's a tip from me to you.  If you are the male half of a couple, do.not.be.a.pussy!  Let me explain. We are on very familiar terms with this particular couple by now.  We hang out frequently and have played together several times.  I consider us all friends.  Sounds like a great situation, right?  Here is where it gets very frustrating for me.  Anytime we hang out he tells me things like...  "you're so beautiful" and "you're so perfect".  Believe me, this is nice to hear, but it gets old … [Read more...]

How it all started

When we meet people for the first time, we are often asked how we decided to try this lifestyle comes up often. It all started rather innocently, I suppose.  I commented about how hot Mila Kunis is to The Hubby a few years ago while watching Forgetting Sarah Marshall.  That sparked a conversation about what other girls I think are sexy.  See, I tend to have more girls on "my list" than guys.  The Hubby told me that he thought I was more into girls than I would admit.  I knew it was true, but I … [Read more...]